What it takes to be married,advice for singles and married couples.

"Any man who demands for sex from you  before marriage is a sex hunter,not a lover.He is in "lust" With you not in love with you.True love is patient while lust wants sex now.Pre-marital sex is never a way to express love.If your refusal to have sex with him/her is the reason why the relationship will not work,let it be.Bear in mind that your world will not collapse if a relationship ends.Love is a choice,not emotions.Because when you get married to someone,you will always meet someone better looking,more beautiful,handsome,richer,taller and stronger than your spouse and they may like you.When a guy gets married,you will always meet ladies,they are not necessarily better than your wife at all. They are just sexually available.And they say the things you want to hear.When you get married,the only thing that keeps you married is the DECISION.You have chosen him or her out of millions and decided to marry him or her which is final.Even your old boyfriend might still be interested,that young lady meets you and asks "is your wife pleasing you?" That's time to run.Remember,the marriage ring cannot protect you from guys,you know that.The guys on the street don't want your ring,they want you,but you already made your choice.So keep your choice.

"One is to get married,the other is to remain married.I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship.Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round,and on the other hand,cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner.In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with any other person.Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart,it works out because of our emotional maturity,empathetic intelligence and self discipline because time will come when you will see more beautiful,handsome,romantic, intelligent,sexy,rich,curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in with.In those times,love will not help you,self control will help you,emotional intelligence will come to your rescue,commitment will keep you going.With those characteristics,no matter how you feel for someone else,the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.You think happily married  people don't see better people than the ones they married?You think they don't feel funny sometimes?You think they don't catch feelings?They do,but understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.You can fall in love with anyone,but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them.It takes more than love.We are too fond of loving when it's convenient,when it's sweet.We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.After then,you will realise that the feelings have dropped,it's now your responsibility to make it work,not love's responsibility. Relationships cannot be ready made.You have to build it and it's never always about love,it requires commitment,it requires intelligent.On the long run in marriages,it's not just love that keeps them together forever,it's determination and commitment.Everyone fall in love,it takes little or no effort to do that.But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do
that.That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one,discipline yourself,bridle your emotions.Building a relationship is hard work,it's like building a career,It's like pursuing a dream.It's always tough,at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together,you can scale through the trying time by being focused and committed.The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together.Be emotionally strong.Be self disciplined. Sticking to one person is not natural,you must develop yourself to do that.It works great and perfect with people of like
minds,people of the same believes,people that share the same school of thought. Build yourself.Be Disciplined,Stay Committed and Trust God It works for the like minds.It is better to marry late and enjoy happy marriage with the right person than to marry early and suffer in marriage with a wrong person.It is not how far but how well that matters.I have observed that some people are rushing into marriage because they see everybody getting married.Some people rush into marriage due to pressure from family and friends.At the end,they marry a wrong person.It is good for you to take your time and search for the right person.Marriage is a life time contract in which you spend the rest of your life with your spouse.Therefore take your time to search and pray.Do not rush into marriage because of family pressure or friends pressure.They will not be there when you will be suffering bad marriage.Therefore,take your time and search for the right person.

HOW TO AVOID ADULTERY IN YOUR MARRIAGE
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Please note that you can avoid adultery.It is within your power to do it,if you really mean it.Carelessness is one of the major cause of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error.So follow the following simple rules and you will never fall into adultery.

☀Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions.

☀ Never be with anybody of opposite sex at the time your spouse never know you are there.

☀Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody,they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your spouse and destroy you.

☀Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/husband you visited.

☀Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse,affair thrive in secrecy.

☀Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex,there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to,don't dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

☀Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from opposite sex.They will ask for sex in return,they are not father Christmas.

☀Avoid thinking that any body is better than your husband or wife,you don't know what their spouses are enduring at home,what you are seeing outside is just a show biz,don't be deceived.Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

☀ Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse.He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

☀Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other,it is only faces that are different,it is the same package.

☀Deal with any sexual thoughts that is not directed towards your spouse, kill it before it kills you.Sexual error do not begin in the bedroom,it begins in the heart.

☀Before traveling,have sex with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have sex until you come back, that decision may save your life and destiny.

☀Men,avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there,it is stupid,childish and dirty to do that,that is what is called lust,what is there is not different from what your spouse has,please don't be stupid.

☀Walk in company with good and Godly men/women,if you keep company with adulterer,you will become adulterous.

☀Discuss your sexual desire with your spouse and let it be met at home,don't hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow,your wife/ husband has the best,get it at home.

☀Fill your heart with the word of God always,this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

☀ Always count the cost of adultery, don't just look at the pleasure,look at the pain,loss of integrity,how you will hurt your wife/husband,children,friends and above all God the almighty.

☀Always remember that the enjoyment, pleasure and the thrills that is in sex is just 8 seconds or less,it can not be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity.Why trading eternity for 8 seconds, is there wisdom in that?
be faithful to your spouse and you will be glad you did.

☀Pray regularly for your Spouse and your marriage.It is well.